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Tuesday, May 11, 2010

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Make Your Personality Attractive

Building an Attractive Personality

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What would your personality be like if you hung around the

300 Spartans? For one, it would probably help eradicate

every bit of wuss you have lying around inside.

The other day I was thinking about how it’s just as important

to work on your character as it is to work on your outer

appearance, and how at the end of the day,

your image is useless if there’s no personality

behind it to communicate.

Then the question arose: what are the most EFFECTIVE ways

to build an attractive personality?

I’m always working on some part of myself that I want to

develop. Currently I’m trying to learn how to become a better

storyteller. I wasn’t making any progress for awhile but quickly

realized that I was taking the wrong approach of trying to learn

it all on my own. I didn’t know what worked and what didn’t,

and how I could work on these traits more effectively.

Through this process I was reminded that many guys are

trying to become a better version of themselves, but are

struggling to do so because they are spending too much

of their energy reinventing the wheel instead of modeling

after those who are already on the ride.

Something like storytelling isn’t something you can improve

at by yourself.

Alone, the process can be slow and full

of mistakes, but by surrounding yourself with some of

the best, you cut down the learning time tremendously

by picking up on the crucial principles and details that

only experiential success can bring. Basically, you’ll be set

on the path that guarantees results if you stick to it. All you

have to do is follow through.

You become the average of those

who you’re constantly around.

Early today, I was eating breakfast and watching this

commercial on television that featured a white girl,

an Asian girl, and a black girl. I was busy eating my food

and wasn’t even watching the screen, but just by listening

I could clearly make out which girl was which

from their accents.

The white girl had a slight New York accent that

I made out in a split second (which was easy because

I’m from New York), and the Asian girl spoke in a subtle,

but distinguishable Asian accent, which I could tell from

her slight overcompensation in pronouncing her words.

The black girl had an attitude in her voice like she was

from the ghetto.

This has nothing to do with racial background, but more about

where these people grew up. The way they talk might have

nothing to do with where they are specifically from either,

but the people around them. Most of the time these people

have NO idea that they have these accents, but they have

them because of the people they surround themselves with.

The fastest and most effective way to grow a part

of your personality is to surround yourself with people

who already have what you want.

Have you ever caught yourself acting just like the friends

you hang around most?

Most of this is subconscious.

It might be certain vocabulary you use, the tonality in

how you say a word, or even your attitude towards life.

When we hang around people long enough, we inevitably

move towards similar behaviors, beliefs, and ways of living

without even thinking about it.

Choose who you surround yourself with carefully, because

they could be rubbing off on you, in both beneficial or

detrimental ways. We can easily become a sponge that

absorbs the behaviors of those we stay in contact

with most.

Coined by Napolean Hill, a man who studied thousands of

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he most successful people in the world and distilled the

commonalities into the principles in the book,

Think and Grow Rich, the “mastermind group”

is a must for anyone serious about growth…

This doesn’t mean you should be going into panic mode and

start cutting off contact with anyone who you believe isn’t

serving your growth. Everyone has attractive qualities to their

personality. For example, your friend might be horrible in a

social setting but a genius when it comes to computers.

If you want to build your computer savvy, you’ll learn faster

from him than if you were to try and learn by yourself

through books alone.

For example, earlier in my life I used to hang out with a lot of

gut-busting-ly funny people. These guys were comedic geniuses,

throwing an entire room into uncontrollable laughter at will.

The more I was around these people, the funnier I became.

In the beginning I picked up some jokes and material that

I would use with others. Just imitating certain lines was

a huge improvement. But with time, I began to understand

the nuances that made a joke not only funny, but absolutely

killer.

I began to “see the matrix” in terms of

delivering the hook, the timing, and the attitude

that results in great humor. Now, I’m confident that

I can bring out my own unique humor in any situation because

of the principles I’ve learned from the masters and honed

through my own experience.

This is definitely true for developing your style.

Surround yourself with the most stylish people you

can find, and see how great of an impact it has on

your own image.

I just want to note that you can surround yourself with successful

people through books, tapes, videos, or whatever way you

can find until you create a direct relationship with one in the

area of your choice. However, a direct relationship with

successful people has so many more benefits including

having a “coach” who has been through the process to

help you through your obstacles, having someone who you

can bounce ideas with, and having that “real life” example

of success to fuel your belief.

So take a look at yourself and some personality traits you

might want to develop. Then start to look for people who

have these traits, and make an effort to hang out with them.

Once you start doing that, you can start modeling them

and implementing what they do.



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