Why Guys Hate Needy Women
Although much has been said about how independent young women are today (they out earn their male peers in many big cities, freely indulge in reaching the peak of pleasure solo — you get the idea), clearly there are still some chicks who turn into cling-ons when they’re in the throes of a new relationship. The problem, according to psychotherapist Dr.Natasha , is that “guys are repelled by neediness because it hints at a woman’s insecurity.”
To be fair, it’s normal to feel a little insecure when you first start dating someone because the relationship’s status is so up in the air, says Debbie Magids, PhD, coauthor of All the Good Ones Aren’t Taken. The trouble arises when you allow that anxiety to seep out. “Asking probing questions about a guy’s daily whereabouts and activities are red flags to him. Coming on that strong makes it more likely that you’ll trigger his rejection reflex,” says relationship expert Gary Stollman, PhD. “Also, getting completely invested too quickly sends the message that you don’t have a life of your own.”
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